I hear ha zjw.....just wanted to add my two cents.....I too was abused as a child, shamed and tormented by my grandmother........I will never forgive her.....somethings are unforgivable, she has a lot to do w why I drank. honestly, I think she was mentally ill........an extremely toxic woman who smiled to everyone who saw.her on the street.....but a real witch otherwise. I try not to think about her and she's dead so we have no contact lol