I'm glad you found it on benefit zjw.
I agree with Joanne - forgiveness is for our benefit, not theirs.
In order for me to move on I have to let go of the other persons throat.
It doesn't mean I have to be pally with them or keep them close, and it doesn't mean I have to forget the past.
I just let go of the stuff that's keeping me rooted to the spot...or try to, at least
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