I don't think you're being Codie here--we tend to beat ourselves up for having basic security needs in relationships. I'm with Refiner- in my experience, if something feels off, it likely is. In healthy relationships, I've never had that doubt...but every time I did have it, I later realized I wasn't getting a great relationship and commitment...just those darn crumbs we get used to. I would trust your gut and watch it unfold.