Liz.....the one word that I would say to you is....TIME....TIme....time....
I don't know if patience is one of your strong suits....and I know you want the security of knowing, right now, if it is the "perfect" relationship for you or not...but, you will have much more information on this in another 18months or so.
Above all....you have to feel free to be your authentic self....both now and in the future.....
dandylion