I asked my ex if I could borrow one of our cats over the weekend- the one I nursed back to health 4 years ago to the tune of $1000 after I found it almost dead in his flowerbed.
The cat is fine now, and weighs 18 pounds. I know all the animals are well cared for.
I just wanted to visit with my old buddy.
Before I knew it, my ex turned it into an opportunity to clobber me. He pointed out that since I left all of them (himself and the animals), they should all stay with him.
Then, this morning, I got a different e-mail telling me I had as much right to them as he does.
I returned his e-mail, agreeing that the animals are perfectly happy and fine at his place. Then, I gave him my old buddy, lock stock and barrel, in my own mind.
I instantly felt free of a hurt I had, missing my old buddy.
If my ex loses his house, which he threatens about 3 times a year, then I will revisit that issue.
For now, detach, detach detach.....