My exah stayed sort of functioning ( he never had a job but he got up at some point during the day) for 18 years and has gone to end stage in 8 months flat. Don't waste your life. There are plenty of more deserving people to love. The fall out from my ex ah drinking will carry on all my life and the lives of my children and their children. He has ruined all our lives. We are left shoveling up the pieces and trying to make something out of them. Looking back even the "better" was crumbs and yes it always get worse. My ex ah doesn't even get out of bed to use the toilet now. He drinks in it. Poos in it and urinates in it. He is never sober to talk to, eat or get a shower. Is that the life you want?