Yes, you are all so right.
When we finally have the courage to take off
the rose colored glasses----it is possible (not
easy, but possible) to push the jettison external
stores button.
Before that point, it is quite impossible.
It is why our wise moderators counsel SR old
hands to be gentle and kind to the newbies.
When I first got here, I was a caterpillar.
Morning, noon, and night I thought of nothing
but eating. I was a fat little grub all right,
feasting on codependency schemes to get 'my'
addict back on track.At one point, I even considered
cosigning for a place for her to stay!
(Sorry, gang, you are not likely to come up with a
story sicker than THAT!)
But I came to SR and for the first time ----
- I looked up. There were these ethereal creatures
with irridescent wings. I didn't know such things
existed. But once I knew---- the floodgates of
discontent opened.
These people didn't run to streetcorners to
press money into an addicts hand. They didn't
wonder for weeks on end if the addict was alive.
Now I'm a butterfly. But it wasn't easy.
Squeezing out of that damned chrysalis was a
bitch and a half! But it was worth it. Spreading
your wings means facing the truth. And even then,
you have to let them dry awhile.
Butterflys don't look down on caterpillars.
They don't sit on branches and laugh "hey! I think
you need to eat a few more thousand leaves, fatass!"
Butterflys ARE caterpillars----separated by a
few weeks, and alot of pain.Facing the painful
truth is like a hard workout. You are sore all over.
And the truth is, it will hurt tomorrow,too.
But in the long run (we ALL know) .
.....facing the truth is BETTER.