Thank you for that. I don't think I ever knew my AEH sober. I didn't find that out until way down the line and he would have his ups and downs but was always taking pills, drinking, using heroin and getting in trouble with the law. I guess I had some fantasy about us and things would get better. Well, they didn't and he is progressively worse. He doesn't have any contact with any of his young kids and moved hours away. Says a lot about a persons character.
I'm just glad that the chaotic lifestyle is over and there is stability in my home!