That sounds like good pep talk, UP. I agree, we can't expect others to fulfil us, that has to come from ourselves. I'm reading "awareness" by Anthony De Mello at the moment, and he touches on this quite a lot. Being aware of, and observing, our thoughts, feelings, and so called needs, is the first step to liberation.
Twice daily meditation is helping me to heighten my awareness. I've been practicing regularly since my retreat, and I can see some changes in my thought patterns, and my responses to difficult situations already.
Do you have a spiritual practice, yourself, UP?
It's the start of another sober week here. Hope everyone's on track for a good week ahead.