when i first met with the person i'd asked to guide me through the steps, that's what i told them i wanted: to be guided through the steps.
so it was i who set that boundary. i didn't want friendship or anything else, just help through the steps.
i needed clear boundaries for myself. iasked how they saw their role. i asked how they approached it, how they usually do it and what they expect from me.
it was a good beginning, to talk about mutual expectations. to be clear we were doing this together, in a way, even though i was being guided and they had the experience.
it helped me to trust.
months later, the relationship has shifted and now includes friendship. all kinds of things included that at the beginning i was afraid of
