Hi Willow, sorry to hear about your situation, it sounds unpleasant. My perception of your OP is that you are not drinking to appease your husband. If I'm wrong I apologize. I think many on this forum will tell you that quitting drinking for anyone other than yourself does not have a high success rate. I have to admit though, when my wife laid down the law on my drinking, I changed...immediately. No amount of alcohol was worth losing my wife over.