Willow , This might come out sounding strange , bare with me. I dated an alcoholic - before I became an alcoholic . At that time in my life I would ask him the same question Why can't you just stop -when you want to ? He too couldn't answer that question .
Anyways I kicked him to the curb cause I couldn't deal with it . I became an alcoholic in my later years . Now I know the answer to my own question . My AV won't let me
You have to work on fighting that AV if you want to become Sober
Maybe you can sit down with your hubby & tell him this in a way he can understand ... Get a plan together - work on it . SR is a great place to start
