I agree 100%. My ex told me for years that I was the problem-that he couldn't live up to my expectations bc they were so high and I wanted him to be perfect. Um, not at all-my expectations were that that he face whatever issues head on, should they affect our marriage, and not deny them, and to act like a grown up responsible human being. I expected that seeing as the ring was on his finger that I would come first-not his mom, not alcohol. Sadly, he was correct-he's an addict and mommas boy to the max and therefore those expectations could not be met. I was not willing to lower myself to what he considered love and take one more day of excuses for his demons. So, yeah, your expectations are out of line if your hubby is an A. Peace to you
