Ditto - it was impossible while RAH was actively drinking.
Did you happen to check out my thread on intimacy last week? The article I linked had a great graph showing how intimacy works in "normies" vs. addicts; it really helped me to see how I'd been going to a dry well & getting more & more upset when I couldn't force it to produce water.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...y-process.html