Coming to think of it... I think that part about the relationships is in her second book...
But... it's an excellent read as well.. ;o)
Yeah.. I'm also learning about detaching.
The only thing I can come up with around that is ...
If I'm taking care of me... whether that be supporting myself... or.. buying things I need... cooking food for myself... finding interesting things to do...
Then it drasticly drops the impact that another's behavior has in my life....
But.. if I'm financially dependant... and think that the only worthwhile stuff is going to happen if so and so is involved... well.. it's black from the getgo.
So... even thinking that my unhappiness is a result of another's behavior is skewed.
If I'm busy building my life... others have minimal impact... good or bad...
Also.. I've found that when my Higher Power is formost in my life... my SO's take on their proper perspective.
Just a thought though..
Is it possible to get to know the other guy while your sorting out your feelings around your bad boy? ;o)