love is blind.
My wife is overweight and will say i dunno how you could possibly love me when i look like this etc.. and the thing is I dont see it not like she does anyhow. Shes a lot more critical of herself then anyone else. we can be our own worst enemies. Sometimes we need to be more compassionate with ourselves. I love my wife however she is at any given time its irrelevant to me if shes fat thin ugly etc... i love her for everything that she is. her pefect imperfections and all etc..
But what gets me is this statement.
If he comes to my house and I am drunk he leaves saying "you are drunk, I don't want to be around you"
Maybe your just really unenjoyable to be around and he doesnt want to condone your behaivior or validate it by being around you when your in this condition. Maybe this is his tough love approach etc. or he's doing it for his and your own good.