hello and welcome. sorry for what brings you here. but you are in the right place.
Am I alone out here. I don't know how to get him to truly do what he needs to.
many of us arrive here with that exact question......how do i help HIM/HER? how do i get them to CHANGE? how do i get them to WANT to do the right thing and sober up and be a productive PART of this family?
as you have experienced since 2009 - you CAN'T. not for lack of trying. as it is his disease has progressed and he has sunk low enough to steal from you, your clients, your kid, his kid. he is refusing to truly DO anything about his condition.
tough times. but i think you know what needs to happen - that this situation simply cannot continue. you deserve a safe and sane home, you deserve to have your business protected, your finances secure.
you didn't cause this.
you can't cure this.
you can't control this.
but you can take care of YOU. and it is absolutely OK to do that. to put you first. it's time.