Hi, Nicnac,
Glad to see you found SR. This place is remarkable.
When I look back at how I entered sobriety, the mental tool that helped me the most was starting from a place in which I said to myself "it's over."
No more drinking, period. As I read your posts, it struck me that we have to approach sobriety as a definitive moment in our lives. That lead me to looking up the definition of "definitive" -- a little redundant, in some ways, but distinctively so. Here's what I found among the descriptions:
Definitive, adjective:
having its fixed and final form; providing a solution or final answer; satisfying all criteria:
the definitive treatment for an infection; a definitive answer to a dilemma.
That sums it up nicely. Make a definitive choice.
From there, plenty of tools are at your disposal, including SR and AA.