I would like to give you a HUGE hug. And I'm also glad you know how dangerous he could be to YOU. It probably helps that he's never had you in his power, so he's unlikely to see it as a betrayal, but it can still be dangerous.
I would never let this man darken my door again. You can't control what your husband does and who he sees, but I don't think I could bear having him in my house.
I am SUPER proud of you and grateful on behalf of the women you've helped--the women in his life and the women here. As many times as I've had victims begging me to drop the charges, I've had several thank me later for not doing it. Recanting, minimizing, returning to the abuser, testifying on his behalf, are survival strategies for many victims. It helps a whole lot when other people understand, don't blame them, but put the blame squarely where it belongs.
Thanks for what you did, and thanks for sharing about it. You're my hero for the day--maybe even the month.
