My counselor was our marriage counselor so she knows us both which is what I like. However I find her lacking in first hand knowledge of situations. (I don't think she has ever been married and does not have kids)
I have been committed to making things work with my ah, I've made mistakes that I know. Ah checked out of our marraige 5 years ago and never check back. So for the last 5 years I've done 95 to his 5. So in my opinion he's the one that is responsible for the failure of our marriage.