I think you might be giving too much leeway to your AV, inner addict, evil twin, or whatever you want to call it Fradley
Let me explain - I'd tell my wife because she deserves to know.
(I'd wager if your wife is anything like mine she knows *way* more than you think anyway)
Whatever reaction you get is what you get - her honest reaction.
If your AV decides to run with whatever transpires - SQUASH IT LIKE A BUG, man.
You're in control, not your AV
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