Not sure how great my plan was but I got sober on the sly. I'm sure my guy noticed but he didn't say anything either. After the dozens of times I declared that I wasn't drinking anymore and then ending up at the liquor store within days (or hours) who would've believed me? I knew I wasn't going to drink anymore but he must have been wondering if it was too good to be true.
I have a very close friend out of state who I waited until a year to tell I don't drink anymore. Boy that felt great to tell him "I haven't had a drink in a year." I started verbalizing it a few months in to some people.
I think this is a situation that's totally individual and there's no wrong way to do it as long as you're not drinking alcohol. I'm sure lots of people tell their significant other the morning after a blackout in the hell of a hangover. I just wanted to test the waters and prove to myself that I was really doing it