Alcoholic mother
For starters, I am sober but as an alcoholic I know how hard it can be to get help.
My mom is an alcoholic and has been one my whole life. There are periods that I have completely blocked out so I don't have to remember them. I am having difficulty stepping back from her and letting go of the fact that she will probably never get better. I guess I am very angry towards her and just want to unleash my verbal bile on her but I know that it won't help. It might make me feel better for a minute but it won't help the situation.
I have set boundaries and hardly ever see her. I told her that I wouldn't be around her if she drank and she still chooses to drink. I still come around but only to see the rest of my family. Should I not come around at all and stand by my word? I feel like I'm not following through on what I said I was going to do.
My dad is very codependant on her and talks to me about her and how bad she is but then buys her a new car or takes her to a casino to get drunk. I'm trying to set boundaries with him as well but it is very hard. I feel like a bad daughter and this whole situation just breaks my heart.
I can't stop thinking about this whole issue. My brother and sister usually just walk on eggshells around my mom and don't do anything that they say they are going to do or they just don't want to discuss it at all.
I've started going to al-anon to work on myself which will in turn change my ways on how I handle this situation. I know that recovery takes a long time and that changing my ways is a type of recovery as well. Recovering from alcohol took a couple of years and I have to work on it daily. I just want this fixed and I want my obsession with it to go away.
Anyone have thoughts on this? Thanks for all of your help!