I always knew recognizing our feelings was important, but never really could see why, exactly. I could say, "Okay. I can see my husband lying to me, drinking in secret and being angry makes me sad, mad, disappointed, hurt, etc." But where am I now? Is anything better?
It seems obvious, but linking each feeling to a need and lastly, figuring out the request to meet that need all of a sudden makes it all make sense!
I have been a person that didn't acknowledge I HAD needs or, perhaps I could in THEORY, but I didn't notice when they were coming up (although I had the feelings as indicators, I didn't know feelings WERE indicators).
This process takes me right to the needs and figuring out how to meet them!
Love it.