freetosmile......I agree with jjj......Often, if a therapist tells someone straight-out what to do (even if it is the right thing)....the person will come back later and "blame" the therapist if everything doesn't work out perfectly......or, if they feel less than happy.....rather than making their own decisions and taking responsibility for the results....
Sometimes, the client wants the therapist to make the decision so that they don't have to appear to be the "bad guy"------:"The therapist told me to leave him".....but, I really didn't want to." "It was the wrong decision and it is the therapist's fault".
It is sort of like teaching the client to fish rather than just handing the client a fish. It is building self-confidence and self-reliance and self-esteem. You have to be able to operate from self committment...not just follow what someone told you....
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