The house is mine; he did not fight that, and that is one of the numerous things I am thankful to him for and one of the reasons I continue to try to work things out on at least a level of sharing bills. He could have done so much to make things difficult in the divorce, and he did not. He agreed to everything and we did a pro se divorce, which saved so much time and money. He certainly could have demanded half the house and there is no way in hell I could have bought him out. He has fixed things, sometimes with truly amazing amounts of patience and perseverance, and built things, and been an incredibly good man in so many other ways.
But he lied (and continues to) and took $ from our savings (and continued until I separated our accounts) and drinks. And I am always going "is this good enough to live with?" And I'm always thinking, well, maybe, except the lying. And I don't think an A can be an A w/o lying, so that is not going to change.