Love is what keeps me attached to the alcoholism of my daughter. I am working hard in Alanon to learn detached love, so her disease doesn't drag me down too.
I am learning that one of the most loving things I can do for my alcoholic daughter is allow her to experience the consequences of her drinking. This is a very painful and difficult thing to do when you see your loved one suffering from alcoholism.
Having said that, however, it's a complicated issue - and every situation is different...
Robin