Originally Posted by
achintobe 
My conflict is/was that I know her life situation is not all her fault. She didn't choose for the tragic events within her family to happen. But then I figure she IS choosing to not deal with everything constructively.
I heard this while listening to an interview on public radio:
Life isn’t about the things we go through, it’s about the choices we make while we’re going through them.
I don't think there are many of us who are untouched by some sort of tragedy by the time we reach adulthood. Yet many of us do NOT choose to deal w/the fallout of whatever problems are in our lives by drinking, drugging, etc.
You are so right. She DOES have choices.