Thank you all. I know leaving the relationship was the right thing to do.
My conflict is/was that I know her life situation is not all her fault. She didn't choose for the tragic events within her family to happen. But then I figure she IS choosing to not deal with everything constructively. I'm not interested in playing the savior role, but she is a human being just like the rest of us. I know I can't do anything unless she wants it, but she is surrounded by a whole circle of people who are not doing her any good.
I like the card idea. I can apologize and the offer for support will be there, but then its all on her.