Welcome to SR, achintobe, and I'm glad you found us here. To me, it sure sounds like you made the right decision. There are tons of red flags, and when you bear in mind that what we actually see going on tends to be the tip of the iceberg, you did indeed dodge that bullet.
If you have the time, do some reading around this part of the forum, and don't miss the stickies at the top of the page. There's a ton of useful info there. It will give you an idea of what you're in for if you do decide to remain in this woman's life. Checking the Alcoholics section will give you a little perspective from that side as well as showing you just how little effect anything you do will have on her drinking or not drinking. Checking out an open Alanon/AA meeting might be really informative for you too.
Again, I'm glad you got out of that mess, and I'm glad you came here for some support and education. Hope it helps.