Originally Posted by
jjj111 
The truth was, his actions didn't make sense because people often don't make sense. People are confused. They waver. They're indecisive. They're plagued by addictions. They try to save other people's feelings by being nonchalant about things that do sort of bother them. And WE are imperfect, too. We make mistakes, scare people off by being overeager. And life goes on. Forgive yourself and move on, Butterfly. When we know better, we do better.
EXACTLY. Print this out, read it every day, commit it to memory. NOBODY IS PERFECT. He isn't, you aren't. You (both of you) were not in a place where you could possibly have "worked" together.
And this, too:
You will start feeling better about yourself when you start ACTIVELY pursuing some self care and non-man-related enjoyment for yourself.
Relationships with men are not the be-all and end-all of existence. Work on developing those parts of you that can shine, and someone who appreciates it will someday come along. It might not be for a while, and that's OK, too. The more self-reliant you become, the happier you will be--with or without a man in your life.