Butterfly, I'm not sure if this would be helpful but I love this quote, "What other people think of me is none of MY business!" So, what is YOUR business? Whenever I got the obsessive thoughts swirling, my sponsor would tell me, "Just do the next right thing, Liz. If it's doing the dishes, then do that. If it's taking a shower, then do that. Put your focus on the NEXT RIGHT THING. So, I'm asking you, Butterfly, what is your next right thing FOR YOU?
I love what Lexie, Anvil, and Dandelion shared here and I suggest you print them and put them on your bathroom mirror or refrigerator. I know how hard it is to let it go, to stop obsessing, to put the focus on ourselves instead of on them, but you can do it! We all have done it and we all are still working that very process but you have to take the first step. Do the next right thing, sweetie!