I girl, thank you!! You ar ether first person on his forum I have ever heard talk about marriage the way you do! Thank you! I completely agree! Marriage is about having a partner for life, having someone that is the person you love but also your friend to do fun things with and enjoy every day normal life experiences. Marriage is absolutely not about detachment, doing your own thing and focusing on yourself and not focusing on the marriage couple. While it is normal and healthy to do healthy good things to take care of oneself. Living separate lives while being married has always been such a completely sad thing to me and so many people advocate that on here. So thank you for your post!