teach her to stand tall.. stand tall and proud of who she is.
this wasnt her. teach her not to let it reflect on her. she is an individual. and although some people may feel upset with her, (wrongly), she didnt do anything wrong. reinforce that with her.
put down a boundary. maybe.. no more going to her work under any conditions. and have a consequence lined up if he does it again.
be prepared for a lot of boundary pushing... they dont seem to see how you bend until you break for some reason.
she is employed, which means she is responsible, and well liked. teach her to take pride in herself and that this doesnt reflect on her as an individual. my daughters father would show up all the time just to "be the concerned parent" at the most horrible places.
she had to put her foot down because my words werent enough. once she did.. it increased her self empowerment, and self confidence. and it stopped that behavior right quick too.
quietsins