I could have written every single word of your post. The only difference is i wasn't married to him. He lived with me for about 9 months. Thank you for sharing this... Just yesterday, i was questioning myself and thinking maybe i over reacted to all his occasional binge drinking since it only occured once a month. But, your post has made me realize that my emotions and reactions to his alcoholism was indeed how all would react in our situation. Even though i still have my hard days over the breakup, it feels SO GREAT to not have to worry about all the chaos that his drinking caused. Last Forth of July was so miserable.. we stayed at a hotel with his girls and my son. He was sneaking away every chance he got to drink. We fought and it made the entire day awful. This year for the 4th i will be returning to the same hotel for 4th of July celebrations and i know it will be the best day ever!!