Of course all your issues are your issues. No one is trying to say you didn't have angst or that your feelings aren't valid.
What is being said is that it doesn't matter what the reasons were for your start to drinking. It matters that you stop drinking if you ever hope to learn to put those past experiences that were painful to you into a more healthy perspective.
Past pain simply cannot be processed while drinking.
Sleepie, there are some here who drank who had really good upbringing. They were popular and attractive. They may have had money or great family relationships and yet became alcoholics. It doesn't matter if they started at 9 or 49...and I've seen both. There are some here who were abused in cults, sexually and physically abused by their peers and their family. Some became homeless due to their circumstances or their addictions. There are many different stories, rapes, beatings, abduction, imprisonment, mental illnesses, physical issues and disability, etc., read around the boards.
The bottom line is that whatever you suffered - someone had it worse and someone had it better, depending on your frame of reference.
Each story can be healed, by each person. We all have the ability to heal our lives.