I told my son
My son has apparently been doing really well, and hasn't been drinking as much as usual. I have spoken with him a few times in the past two weeks and he was sober each time. Which made it so much harder to tell him not to come 4th of July.
I didn't even say he was uninvited. I kind of said "I'm having a problem and not sure what to do. I'm worried if you get drunk on the 4th that it will be embarrassing." He did not see this coming, and he got really emotional. He said "I have been coming to 4th of July there for at least 15 years, and the only time I ever missed was one year when I was locked up. It's a big drinkfest. Why am I being singled out"?
We were both crying. I feel so horrible, but even feeling bad I still know it was the right thing to do. I talked to my daughter afterwards, and she said "that's not true. It is not a big drinkfest. He just thinks it is because he is always drinking" She said even now he's throwing blame on other people.