I was always grateful in my first marriage
that my husband respected me and my
recovery as to not want to drink around
me. He didn't really have to because he
didn't have an addiction problem, a
normie as they are called.
However, because he and his folks did
the intervention on me and firmly told
me that if I ever took a drink in our house
again, then my butt would be out.
Of course I remained sober for 24 yrs
now, and decided to do so for myself
and not for what he wanted me to do.
It was my decision and my recovery and
life and I did whatever I needed and wanted
to do to remain sober using a recovery
program taught to me.
Respect, understanding, communication
are all important in a marriage, relationship,
recovery between all members involved.
I was the one in recovery within our 4 member
family unit where the other 3 had no addiction
problems. However, they didn't and would truly
understand me as an alcoholic, a mom and wife
in recovery because they were not alcoholics.
It takes one to know one.
The lack of understand and communication
eventually ended our 25 yr marriage sad to
say.
Today I am 6 yrs happily married to my husband
who is in recovery with me, so we can communicate
and understand each others recovery which is
extremely important to both of us.
Respect, communication, understanding,
love and care work hand in hand for couples,
family, relationships to remain healthy, happy
and honest living in a recovery life.
