Originally Posted by
NeoGuest 
I am scared to go to aa I have gad and won't be able to do it...is there anyway to stay sober without it
Yes, but....
I think of my pursuit of sobriety as a two-part process:
1) I stopped drinking, and relapsing
2) I made the changes in my life necessary to stay sober
For me, being involved with SR was enough for 1). For 2), I needed spiritual support from an in-person group. Not AA, but not nothing. Its just that for a lot of people, AA fits best.
Also, for 2), I needed to be brave. Specifically, I walked out on a high paying job because of the emotional stress my boss was putting me through. I got lucky. I have a new high paying job and a great boss who understands why I walked away from my old job. But it was a risk in today's job market. I put aside a lot of savings beforehand to tide me over.