Originally Posted by Andante

I'd go with Door #2.

I see this “if you spot it, you’ve got it” stuff a lot and while it can be true in some instances, I think it’s often a knee-jerk diagnosis that is over-applied.

Loud, obnoxious, controlling, overbearing people bug me simply because they’re loud, obnoxious, controlling and overbearing — not because they reflect some character defect of my own that I haven’t addressed, but precisely because they’re the kind of people I DON’T want to emulate (or to be around).

Sometimes other people are going to rub me the wrong way. It doesn’t always mean they’re echoing something that's wrong with me. There’s something wrong with me only if I’m unable to prevent my annoyance with them from festering and growing into something that interferes with my ability to live life on life’s terms.