I had the same situation, talked to my sponsor, and this hurt. He said, "S_cks looking in the mirror." He went on to explain in his experience that people that bugged him were exaggerated versions of himself. The reason he picked up on their character defects so strongly was because he was insecure about the same things. This painful lesson has stuck with me and whenever it happens I examine myself.
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The guy is a blow hard and hopefully will calm down once he realizes people don't want what he has