Everyone: thank you, thank you! I so needed to hear this. I have been concentrating on being my AH's rock and I too have been sinking and I didn't know it...or I tried to deny it....I do want to breathe again...I will let God be my rock...I can't help him...he is so unhappy and suffering...he is just trying to cope with that by adding alcohol and that is not working very well...I will not let him drag me down with him!!!!