After seeing Pouncer's powerful post, I have to say that I think there was a reason to become sober, and for me I believe it was to see how unhappy I am in my marriage. We just had our anniversary of 30+ years and it's been 30 pretty miserable years. All I wanted him to do was love me and he just couldn't let himself do that. Now we are older and I don't want to waste anymore time on this man. We spent 4 years FOUR YEARS in counseling about 10 years ago and still it hasn't gotten any better.
But can I start over alone in my 60's? Is that crazy? I'm terrified and excited at the same time. And I know now that this is the reason I got sober, so I could be clear headed when I made this decision.