Thanks All! He cried to me for months and I wouldn't give in. He sent flowers weekly and articulate letters with so much logic and emotion. He seemed so calm and sure of his love for me. I was reluctant but let him back in and within 24 hours of sleeping together again for the first time he said he needed to be alone to work on himself. It's mind boggling. Leaves me spinning. Emotionally and psychologically astounded and pained. I cannot cannot cannot believe he did this to me again.
Yes I'm in therapy and going back to Coda, I might also go away to a wellness retreat. And the wife is taking him back. It's insanity.