Thanks Ann, Trust was such a important missing element in my drinking life. This was true both trusting and trusted. Little by little we learn trust by doing something strange for us. Opening up and taking a chance. This is perfect concerning the NYC trip we've been talking about. I'm taking a chance and meeting people without having to control the situation. With SR, I've had the security of logging off, and never returning. Likeing the person or being liked as the person we've presented in print. Also, understanding, that just like on SR and real life we might not like some or some might not like us. However, this has been a difficult lesson for many of us. That is learning that this is OK. It dosen't make myself or others bad for not liking each other. What made me wrong before was dislikeing or not trusting for the wrong reason, even no reason. For me, just someone being happy, even a stranger on the bus, was reason to believe they were not to be trusted, or they must not trust me. I am going to have to put a face on Don, the person I've posted about. Being in recovery, this isn't a problem. I'm no longer two people, if that makes sense. I know longer have to hide one from the other. Most of all, I can put trust in my thoughts, action and words. Today, I want to be trusted and I want to trust. Being hurt from this trust, I can't allow a return to a past life. I can no longer paint with a broad brush. Don W