Great job with flushing that pill. I don't think I could do it at this point. I hope none are lingering around (I'm sure I would have found them if they were, as obsessed as I am).
I don't know about your guy and his sobriety or his advice. I think you should go to a meeting and get your advice there. It sounds like he's being judgmental about things, and that's not going to help you at all. You have a lot to be proud of, and if he doesn't see that you need to find some people who do.
One freaking day at a time, baby. One minute at a time sometimes, for me.