Originally Posted by
jarp 
Thanks everyone.
In terms of AH...we had a session yesterday where I agreed to get out of his way. His specialist doesn't see that he has relapsed - yet, but that he may, but no one is every going to know what he does with his drinking if I don't get out of the way. At the moment I am working so hard to keep the status quo, thinking I can keep everything together - that I am not letting things develop as they will anyway. I'm just slowing down the process.
So the challenge for me is to truly get out of AH's way. And make my decisions.
I am going to try my absolute hardest to do this. That's my promise to myself.
I remember you!! Hi!
I hope you're able to find some other childcare for the kids... that will help with this process of "getting out of his way", because it will relieve you of the stress you may have about worrying what he is doing while you are working. You deserve to work.
As for your little one with the reading problems... though his sister did better with the same type of treatment, he may simply need a different approach. I'm sure that he is also affected by the alcoholism and of course, academics can suffer from emotional distress as well. But rather than suggesting it could be from that, I wonder if just trying a different therapy could help him...?