I've always liked the positive side to this - that we can teach people how to treat us. I believe in that, as humans we do influence each others behaviour.
BUT - I think there's a danger of forgetting that each person comes as a package of previous lessons that we are NOT responsible for. A wife who never taught her husband to beat her can still be beaten, because of lessons taught by his father or mother. She might after being hit, learn from him to lose the confidence to draw boundaries - because he is also teaching her how to treat him, ie with fear.
Hey - but I really do love the empowering upside of this!!!