Originally Posted by
Needabreak 
I don't know the answer to your question, but I do know that there is not room in my life for people who .....
It's different if it's your son or daughter, but in terms of relationships and adult family members, I simply don't allow people who avoid their responsibilities into my space.
Oh how I wish I could make that decision. When it got to the point where the truth be known or the addict/alkie couldn't cover his status some pulled their support and others are still sympathetic but even they are dismayed at the lack of even small amounts of progress.
I frequently hear the alkie/addict lacks coping skills and coping with the fact that one needs a job for money shouldn't be that hard of a skill to learn. Or that people do things like clean, organize, repair etc because it has to be done and they are not bored. They're hung up on career/status although a known life at this point of begging, borrowing or scrounging for money & things can't bring that much status.