Glad to see you jarp but so sorry things haven't been going too well.
red's idea of talking out some options and doing some planning seems proactive and helpful--
the writing, by his own admission and actions, is clearly on the wall and you are, it seems, already mentally preparing for red alert.
First priorities as I see it is managing the kids and getting the stress level reduced for you.
Ideas?
Sounds like you could also use a group hug and a big mug of tea around the kitchen table,
so imagine we're there and let's get started when you're ready
